How To Start Dating Yourself For Better Self Love

This post is all about how to start dating yourself for better self-love

Want better self-love? I know I do. I know it’s been a while since I have actually liked someone, and most times, they’ve turned out to be an idiot lol. The one thing I do want to start doing and am learning is to date myself this year. To make sure that I am internally healthy and happy, being along with myself and my thoughts should be comfortable and not draining. 

To date myself, I am focusing on the Lucky Girl syndrome and making sure I live my best life, externally and internally at all times. 

We’re always so focused on finding the perfect person, the one that’ll change your life and swoop you away. But when was the last time you took a day to yourself and enjoyed your own company? When was the last time you loved what you saw in the mirror and appreciated yourself? To be honest, I don’t really remember the last time I enjoyed my own company. And I bet, neither do you guys!! 

Most times, we push what we want to the bottom of our lists. We just focus on what other people want and not what we want. I know firsthand how badly I wanted to be in a relationship – until now of course!! 😊

Dating is supposed to be fun and enjoyed every single time. Whether it’s your first date or 100000000th date. Right? But then, why don’t we date ourselves, to really enjoy our own company and the love that we hold for ourselves, instead of giving it to others? 

Dating yourself is just really about making sure of what you want, and then you can find that in others too. Holding your own self high enough and having proper self-love, to know what kind of love you deserve from someone else. See, it’s that simple lol. 

1.    Write How You Feel

One of the best self dating ideas is to write down how you feel -daily. It helps to really acknowledge what you are going through and show yourself some self-love.

I’m not a big journaling expert, but I do love to write. Journalling comes in many forms and for me, that is writing for this blog. I also want to start really focusing on my Substack newsletter that I have and maybe create another blog about self-development. We will see lol.

But write down how you feel and why you feel it. It’s a form of self-love that no one can take away and a super duper good habit to make as well. Find some really cute self-love journal prompts to be writing about and get you started on the dating yourself journey – once and for all lol!

2.    Hydrate and Hydrate 

I love drinking water. A lot of my family members drink heaps and heaps of Coke lol. But from a very young age, my nan made me drink water more than anything else. 

Ever since I have been drinking a lot of water, I have really started to be more positive and in a better mood let’s say lol. Before I would get cranky easily and have bad mood swings, but now, since being hydrated more, my brain works better. Keeping my moods in check and making me more positive and productive at the same time! 😊

3.    Treat Yourself Often

I mean, why wait for someone to buy you that gift when you can buy it right? I love reading up on love languages, and one of my own is gift-giving and I love receiving gifts as much as giving them out. Instead of waiting on other people, just go out and buy yourself something you love. Now, don’t break the bank (that’s super not advised lol), but splurging on yourself is harmless.

To date yourself means to spend on yourself. I love clothes, jewellery, food and everything. So this year, I will be spending on myself as much as I want or damn need lol!!! Go buy yourself a new wardrobe, get an upgrade on some of your furniture or buy those pair of shoes you drool over. Whatever it is, do it, making yourself happy is the main goal when it comes to dating yourself! 😊

Treating yourself doesn’t mean buying gifts and whatnot. Go out on a solo date and take inspiration with some solo date ideas to make dating yourself easier than before!

4.    Take Up A Challenge

I’m one for challenges and trying something new (even though in the past I would hate it). I still don’t or to be honest, don’t really have the courage to change my entire life all at once. But trying something new and different is always a good idea when it comes to dating yourself for self-love. 

To be very frank, right now for me, doing something different is focusing on making this blog work and building a community.

Another one of the things I want to challenge myself with is fitness. I want to start working out this time, without the goal of losing weight but to be healthier and fitter than before. Lol, another one, is to change up my routine and environment. I know my challenges and changes seem like they’re never-ending, but there’s a lot I wanna do this year. 

5.    Making Self-Love a Daily Practice

Self-love in this day and age is the one thing that can get you through your past, present and future. Making you more confident and sound as a person. A lot of the time, the thoughts in our minds can lead to us being more negative and having toxic energy.

A bit part of this year is to focus on the Lucky Girl syndrome and to just be positive and happy. I want to learn how to forgive myself for the past and not let any of that hold me back from the future I am trying to build. My outlook is to make my life better and be happier.

So, for me and everyone else, that should mean learning from your mistakes but never holding them against yourself. We’re humans, and in the end, we all make mistakes. But the main focus should be learning, healing and loving ourselves and never regretting what we didn’t know or couldn’t do. 

6.    Solo Adventures

This is one of the things on my bucket list for 2023. I want to start taking some solo trips and adventures. I had plans to go to Turkey, Dubai and even France and had some self date stuff planned out lol. But none of them worked out.

Maybe because I didn’t focus on who I wanted to be and just put all my energy into pleasing others. But now, a date with self means to love life and take those solo trips around the globe. I want to go to Dubai maybe this year and am manifesting that into reality. 

7.    Manifest Your power

I love a good manifestation routine. Super into one these days to be frank. I remember from a young age, my mum used to tell me to be more positive to attract better things. And like the way I am, I never took any notice.

But now as I’m older, I really do understand the concept of manifesting your dream life and turning it into a reality. A lot of things through manifestation have come true for me. And to be honest, it isn’t even that hard!

Just focus on your goals and dreams and make sure you’re actively pursuing them each day. Manifest where you want to be and what you want to be doing. It’s super easy and I’ve made it align with my routine. Read up all about the lucky girl syndrome and its benefits. Also, if you guys want me to write about how I manifest, then let me know in the comments or on Instagram.

Take inspiration from dating yourself ideas on Pinterest and really getting into the self-dating spirit of things 😊.

A few of the dating yourself quotes I absolutely love are:

“Love yourself first, because that’s who you’ll spend the rest of your life with.” 

“I’m not really single, I am dating myself.” 

“Love yourself, again and again, and again.”

Dear Misfits

I know how hard it can be to date yourself, trust me, I know. But you’ve got to learn how-to and make yourself your own priority. Because no one else will! Dating yourself can be fun because you get to find out what you like as a person. I love the idea of solo dates and solo trips, really finding myself and what I like. Date yourself with your big heart and love every moment of it!! 😊