How To Stop Giving Up On Yourself for Ultimate Wellness

Want to stop giving up on yourself and put yourself first? This post is all about how to not give up on yourself for the ultimate wellness routine!

You know the one thing I’ve learnt over time? It’s about you having to put yourself first and foremost, every single damn time. No one, and I mean no one, is going to be there for you. Not when you’re happy and not when you’re sad. Life is like that tbh and it’s hard to accept it.

We always tend to give up on ourselves before we give up on others. It sucks but we do it more often than we know! Giving up on yourself is way common and I’ve done it and seen it!

The main question everyone asks is how to not give up on yourself. The answer is pretty simple. Put yourself first in every single thing. I never did that, like ever. I always put others first and did what they wanted me to do. I never thought of myself and what I needed. Instead, I made others happy, but internally, I was miserable.

Guilt tripping ourselves

It’s way common and it’s so negative. We always guilt trip ourselves into doing things we never want to do. Again, putting others first is the problem. It’s okay if you’re not in the mood to go out, or you don’t want to eat healthy that day. Don’t force yourself on the things you don’t want to do! It won’t be sustainable and good for your mental health.

Stop competing with everyone

I’m such a bad person when it comes to competition. I love to compete in everything, but it’s such a bad habit. Because of this, I give up on myself when things don’t go as planned or as perfectly as the other people. I tend to let shame come in the way and shame myself on why I didn’t achieve what the other person has.

Even with this blog, I was always looking at others and had such a negative thought process on why my blog wasn’t getting as much traffic.

But then I started to realize (and still am lol) that good things take time and my journey is just that – mine! I shouldn’t be competing with other people when all I see is their success. They’ve had struggles too. They have failed so many times before succeeding.

With this blog, I am just trying my best to build a community of people that resonate with the central theme of being a misfit lol. And I am putting all of my energy into that and staying on my own journey and eliminating the competition aspect!

Practice self-love

I was never one to really enjoy self-love. I always thought it never mattered, but I was so wrong lol. I am so into self-love that all of my blog posts are majority about that – making sure wellness, self-love and mental health are your top priority at all times. To never give up on yourself, you have to put yourself first. That is definitely in the form of self-love. 

Take a trip to the spa, enjoy 10 extra minutes in the shower, buy that item you’ve always wanted, spend time with yourself and go out on a solo date. There are so many things to do when it comes to pampering yourself and spending time getting to know who you are as a person. We’re all so focused on spending time with others, that we forget to spend time with ourselves. We’re so focused on getting to know what other people like that we don’t even know what we like. And it is wrong in all ways!!!

Self-love doesn’t mean breaking the bank (I am so against the fact that you have to spend so much money on yourself to be happy because it’s so not true). It’s more about spending quality time with yourself. Play a podcast, listen to some songs, read a book, and enjoy your own company without leaving your home. There are so many ways to incorporate wellness into your daily routine that the options are endless :).

Be kind to yourself

Kindness is such a big thing when it comes to being mentally and emotionally happy. Sometimes, giving up on yourself comes in the form of being unkind to you – not giving yourself enough credit and a pat on the back when you deserve it the most!

I have given up on myself many times and that came in the form of being mean and not feeling worthy of the things I have. And in return, that made me want to work less and not be productive. Just giving up on the things I loved the most – this blog lol.

So, be kind to yourself before you be kind to others. We never are mean to the people we love, because exactly that, we love them! That means that we prioritise them more than ourselves which is so wrong and I know this because I have done it many times. Be kind to yourself, because you should love yourself more than anyone and anything else.

I’m starting to be kind to myself by giving praise when I deserve it, spending time with myself and learning who I am (especially now that I’m about to be 24 in a few months lol). I love spending time on the things that bring me joy like writing for this blog or posting Instagram stories. For me, kindness is more about letting myself be free of negativity and toxic energy.

Be true to who you are

You know, I never really did this and that led to me being so unhappy. Especially when you’re a teenager, you think you have to be someone you’re not to fit in. I did that way into my 20s as well.

But now, ever since this year started, I am being true to myself. I’m not putting on a mask anymore and acting according to how people want. I am me, an individual and if others cannot respect that, then they have no place in my heart.

I’m so lucky that I have found the perfect people of friends that love me for me and have made me stronger as a person as well. I’m so grateful that they don’t judge and I can cry, laugh, smile and even be moody without having the fear of being left alone. I love the fact that I am being true to myself and I’ve learnt to be yourself to never give up is such great advice that really no one told me growing up (otherwise I would have never given up on myself before)!! 🙂

Adjust to change

Lol, here’s me saying adjust to change when it is one of the things, I hate the absolute most!!!!

I hate adjusting to change, it’s like my brain keeps saying no when things change and I don’t really do well with it. But, since it is a New Year New Me vibe going on, adjusting to change is on the to-do list lol.

When things don’t go right or change happens, don’t give up on yourself. It’s okay to take some time to reflect and adjust, but never and I mean never, give up on yourself. Never feel like things won’t work out or that the change shouldn’t have happened.

A little while ago, I applied for this job in a marketing agency and didn’t get it. I was so down and cried lol. But now looking back, I’m so grateful that I didn’t go for that job because the environment wasn’t good and I probably wouldn’t have been able to last. The thing is, we tend to give ourselves more heartbreak when things don’t work out for us in the way we want them to. And trust me when I say this, I know this is so common and I’ve done it all the damn time.

But now, I am solely focusing on this blog, making it scale and also working and learning at the same time. My friend left for France to study and I was so upset about the change. But I adjusted and am happy where I am right now. Adjusting to change isn’t bad, it takes some time, but all in all, it’s super beneficial in making your life better than before!! 🙂

Do the things you love

I love writing for this blog, I am constantly thinking about this blog and writing on a consistent base. I also love learning new things and making Google Sheets lol (weird hobby but true). I’m just trying to say that do the things you love to do, only then you will not give up on yourself.

Find things you enjoy, it could be cooking, baking, stitching or even simple stuff like reading, writing and all of the above lol. Do things that make you feel good about life and yourself. Stop giving up on yourself when you need yourself the most! Love who you are and do what you want to do. That is the motto of how I am living my life these days and will forever and ever lol :).

Dear Misfits

I know firsthand how hard it can be to push yourself and not give up. Trust me, I know. But giving up on yourself brings no joy. Just more sadness to be honest. Stop giving up on yourself and learn to love who you are and where you are. Accept yourself and build yourself into the person you want to be. Better self-acceptance leads to better self-love! Love you all, lots and lots. 🙂

This post was all about not giving up on yourself for better wellness