How I Made Friends While Feeling Out of Place

This article is all about how I made friends while feeling out of place

Feeling out of place is common, especially when you are in your 20s. Making friends can become harder, even so when you are just adjusting to life and finding your footing. When you are in your early 20s, everything seems to be hard. Even the slightest of things. But, remember that making friends is not something to stress about. You need to concentrate about yourself, and then slowly, and steadily, everything falls into its place. But, making friends is essential and I can first hand say that friends are needed, especially when you are in your early to mid-20s.

The things I have learnt while making friends and also feeling out of place is that sometimes, friends come to you rather than you going to friends. And sometimes, you make friends in the most unexpected and uncommon ways. I’ve listed a few ways in which I have made friends and the ways those friends have helped me heal and become a better version of myself!

1. Start Working in a Professional Environment

When you start getting out of the house and working in an environment where you will get to meet other people, friends become a part of that as well. Slowly when I realized that being in the house was doing me no good, I ventured out into a professional environment. Which helped me to make friends with my colleagues, turning them into some of the best people I know and cherish in my life. Helping me to become a better version of myself and loving them unconditionally at all times!

2. Go Out More

Going out does not have to be boring. You can actually make a few good friends by mingling with other people outside the four walls of your home. I did this, and by doing this, I made a few friends. And still, till this day, I contact them and we have a good conversation at all times. Allowing me the opportunity to keep myself busy and have good people surrounding me. Which is important when you are in your 20s and starting out your life.

3. Go To the Gym and Take Fitness Classes

Going to the gym and taking fitness classes can really helping in making new friends and meet new people without putting in the extra effort. I used to hate working out, and sometimes, I still do 😐. But for me the gym is not about just losing weight. It is more about living a healthy lifestyle and getting to connect with others. Finding common interests with other gym lovers and also building on the existing friendships I have with the people in my life. Me and my colleague go to the gym after work. Which helps us to keep our bond strong, while making and mingling with new people. This is a win situation for everyone!! 😊

4. Make Friends Online

Making friends online can become a good thing especially when you both find things in common. This can be blogging related, something that is your hobby like cooking or doing other things. This will help with meeting new people and by making friends online, you expand into different things you like. There are specific apps that allow you to make friends! So, venture out of your comfort zone and find new friends in different ways. Some actually turn out to become your BFF’s for LIFE!

5. Join a Group or Club

Joining a group or club that excited your interests can become a good thing and keep you occupied too. I love writing, especially poetry, so when I took the initiative to post my poetry on online platforms, I started to build relationships with my fellow followers and the people I was following too. This has helped me to build a connection outside of my own circle, getting to connect with other people. Which has provided me the confidence with my writing, also learning new things from others and building a good social circle with other people too. So, I am super pleased with the initiative I started 😊

How To Start a Friendship

Friendships take time, and I for one know that it took me a long time to even take the step to be on good terms with my colleagues. I am an extrovert, but sometimes, when I don’t know the other person, I tend to become more of an introvert around them.

• Say Yes in Limits

Saying yes is always a good thing when it comes to making new friends. I remember once, I said yes out of feeling obliged and went to a friend’s house, and after that, it was the best decision I made. Because that friend who was my colleague at first, became such a good part of my life. I can’t imagine my life without her. So, say yes to make new friends but always be comfortable and never feel out of place or go out of your limits. EVER!

• Take The Initiative

Take the initiative and the first step, this will help you to become more confident and make new friends which can be the start of something beautiful. You do not need to wait for anyone to take the first step. And by taking the first step, it does not mean you are less than anyone else. Instead become the imitator and be kind, even if you are an introvert.

• Start The Conversation

Sometimes, starting the conversation holds power. That is why starting a conversation is always beneficial and can help you to get out of your shell as well. I always tend to start the conversation and take the first step. This allowed me to make new friends quicker than the rest and even in one case, make my neighbor/colleague who is an extreme introvert into one of my closest friends of all. So, I am pretty pleased about that!! 😊

• Smile, Share and Be Kind

Smile and sharing can do wonders and make friends out of those that don’t seem to fit in at first. Maybe they are shy or an introvert. But for me, smiling, sharing and being kind has allowed me to make a handful of new friends quicker and easier, while them getting to know my personality and my love for FOOD! Hehe which is a never asking end of anything sweet, salty and SPICY!! 😊 😊

Dear Misfits,

This post was all about making new friends even when you feel out of place. Trust me I’ve been there; I’ve always felt out of place and for me making new friends has always become a struggle. But even since I have owned my uniqueness, and being a misfit, I have made new friends easier and cherished them for a lifetime. This has helped me to meet new people, made friends while feeling out of place be confident in who I am as a person and make new friends that are just as weird as me!!

This post was all about how I made friends while feeling out of place